It was nice having help with the boys. Having people want to hold them, want to take them on walks and wanting to help with bedtime. Normally during the day it is all on me and then at night my husband will help with dinner and bath. We share the responsibility but neither one of us gets a break. So it was nice having a night where I didn't have to do a thing. So needless to say it was a great Christmas!
When at the park with my dad and the boys I started chatting with a fellow mommy and when she realized I live in California her first response was "Oh my Gosh who helps you with the kids" I said well my husband and she said "No, who else!!" like she was shocked that my husband and I do it all.
It got me thinking on the phrase it takes a village to raise a child and how much that has changed since my mom was a parent. She had family living near by, lots of family. She knew her neighbors and they knew her. Now our family is ALL over the United States. I only have an Uncle in LA and Shane has an Aunt and Uncle even further than that. We are just now meeting and getting to know our neighbors after 9 months of being here. My biggest support is my Mother over the phone and the Internet full of friends and strangers offering support and advice. Funny how the village now is full of strangers and people all over the United States. Although I would kill to be in the same town as my parents. I know that my mom is only a phone call away and we are only a 5 hour flight if anything was so serious that she needed to be here.
I think there are so many pros and cons about the new village I wouldn't know where to start. All I know is it is working for us and when it doesn't we either fly my mom in, meet her somewhere or fly there. I also have alot of comfort in the fact I have great neighbors, friends and online support :)
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