Why is it in beaded into woman to analyze everything people say. "He said yes....but does he really mean No"? I have yet to meet another woman who doesn't do this. It's not just with our husbands, partners or boyfriends, it's with everyone.
We are always second guessing someones motives, feelings and opinions. I do it on a daily basis, sometimes hourly depending on who I am around. Why is it we never take someone at face value. Is it a learned "skill" from our experiences, or are we born with it as a "survival" tactic.
Sometimes I am right, I have guessed or felt the reason motive behind someones actions. But other times I am sooo off base. I would say its a 50/50 odds I will have the real motive, thoughts or opinions behind a persons actions.
I am not sure if this is a good thing or a bad thing. I have ruined friendships because I thought too deep into someones words or actions but I have saved myself hurt by shutting people out that way too. Is this just a woman thing or do Men do it too?
I have never heard my husband say "well she offered to carry my bags but do you think its because she thinks I am lazy" Or analyze why someone complimented how he looked that day. But I know I have said/thought those things.
Maybe its just one of life's little mysteries that we never figure out. I would love to say from this day forward I will not read into things but I know for a fact that's not possible for me. I know I will always read into things, lets just hope it doesn't run off friends ;)
This is totally true.
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