I keep finding myself looking back at Tristen's pictures and videos to see what he was doing at 3 months and I am finding myself comparing the two. When Tristen was 3 months old he was trying to roll over, sitting in his bouncer with no problems and sitting in the tub for his bath. Connor is just holding up his head, wants to sit up but no where near that yet.
I remember when Tristen was this age, telling my other mommies the things he was doing and all of them were in shock. I always made them worry that their babies were not doing what they were supposed to be doing or they were not doing what they were supposed to do. I could see it on their faces that I made them feel bad. I ended up not talking about what Tristen was doing because I was starting to feel like I was losing friends because of it. To me what he was doing was normal and I knew it wasn't something I was doing that was making him do things early. I am comparing the two boys and now feel like I am not doing what I did with Tristen some how and Connor is not where he is supposed to be. I just didn't realize how freaky strong Tristen was because I had never been around another baby to compare.
I am trying not to compare Connor to Tristen. It was evident the day Connor was born that he was nothing like his older brother and it's not good nor bad just different. So I just have to keep reminding myself I am the same mom to Connor as I was to Tristen and just because he doesn't roll at 3 months doesn't mean I am not the same Mommy.
I just hope that I do not push Connor to be just like his brother because what makes Connor special is the fact he is unique and not just like his brother.
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