Opinions

I thinks it's funny how people think they are entitled to tell you what you are doing wrong with your kids. It's amazing people will approach me in the supermarket to give me their advice and opinions on raising my children. It first really shocked me and made me very uncomfortable, but now I think its quite entertaining. You can very easily become very upset and offended by friends and strangers suggestions on how to raise your children. I think what people forget is that all children are different, they do things differently, they handle things differently and they respond to things differently. So as parents we must be different, what works for one parent/child does not work for every parent/child.

I first felt the sting of fellow mommies opinions when I was not able to continue breast feeding my first son. She was very judgemental like I choose not to breast feed him. When the reality was I lost my milk and tried everything to get it back. I was already feeling like a horrible mommy and I didn't need her to criticize me, I needed a fellow mommy to support and uplift me. I mean that is what we are supposed to do right?!?! Instead she preached to me how important breast feeding is for my child and its my job as his mom to do what's best for him. I just smiled at her and kept my feelings and tears inside because I knew I was and will always do what's best for my child. I think breast feeding is great but it's not for every mommy and baby and I would never judge someone with how they choose to take care of their child. What is MOST important is that child eats.

I wish more mommies would uplift instead of judge and criticize. Its so important that we support each other instead of tear each other down. The saying "it takes a village to raise a child" is so true except now our villages are friends,mommy groups and even strangers we run into. So we must support each other and encourage each other.