Mommy Debates

Before I became a mommy I "knew" how I wanted to raise my child. I assumed it was the way everyone else was raising their children as well. Not until I became a mommy did I realize all the "Mommy Debates" out there.

Epidural vs Natural birth, Breastfeeding vs Formula, To circumcise or not, Co-sleeping or not, Vaccinate or not, cloth vs disposable diapers and solids in the first year or not. There are sooo many moms out there with completely different views on these topics than I have. I did not realize that people did things so differently than I do. If you are a mom you know how strongly fellow moms can feel about the way they are raising their child.

What I was not prepared for was the judgement fellow moms can have if you are not raising your child the same way they are. What I don't understand is why people think the way they are raising their child is better than the way others have raised theirs. Most of us turn out to be amazing people, so why do they think judging and making other moms feel bad about raising their children differently is necessary.

I agree some people should NEVER have kids but for the most part most parents do the best they can for their children, they make the right decisions for them and yes they make mistakes and those children turn out just fine. The mom next door does everything differently, makes different decisions for their children and makes different mistakes and those children turn out just the same.

I might wonder why someone choose to react a certain way or do things differently than I do but it comes from me wanting to learn not to judge.  I wish we could all support each other instead of judge each other. I think the most powerful support system I have is from fellow Mommies and I think everyone should have that support system and it saddens me that some women do not.

So no matter how you choose to raise your child, just know there is a fellow mom out there doing it completely different and still needs your support.